Monday, December 17, 2012

Love, life and religion

      Yesterday when I was at mass, the priest preached about how Catholics should devout more time to prayer. And I agree. I do not pray enough I think, and hopefully with enough prayer, I get to be at peace with myself and with the world, knowing that God will take care of us.

     There is something which intrigued me though about his homily yesterday. He mentioned that there was a Catholic girl who messaged him telling him that she is very in love with this guy who is a non-Catholic and is considering marriage (something along that line). The priest said "Are you crazy?" (well that was the exact phrased he used in his homily, not sure whether he really did say that to the girl). He mentioned that one can be in love with another person, but to consider marriage, that's really dumb. He asked why would we want to make our soul suffer through these difficulty of living with another non Catholic. He did say however that conversion is possible, but the chances are slim. There are many Catholic young people, why do we need to choose someone outside the church.

     That got me thinking. And let me tell you upfront, I do not agree completely with his opinions. Marriage between people of different religion is tough, mostly due to differences in value. But are there differences in value within the Catholic church? Of course there is. Does it mean one is less Catholic than another if opinions differ? I don't think so. Are there evil people in the Catholic chuch? Sure thing. Are there good people with good values outside of the Catholic church? Plenty. That means that a marriage between people of different religion or same religion does not guarantee that it will be an easy or rough marriage. If you manage to find people whom you are compatible with, who has the same values, then great. It doesn't mean that if you find a person within the same religion, it's all going to be smooth going. It also doesn't indicate that if you find someone outside of the same religion, life is going to be terrible. There is no clear cut formula to happy marriage (how convenient it would be if there is right?)

     So now that the point is made, what makes marriage between people of different religion difficult? I think it has to do with the family as a unit, especially when there are children involved. If one is Catholic and another is not, then when children comes along, which religion will they subscribe to? If both parents are pious in their own religion, then each one might say that the children should follow their own religion, which would create trouble because now both partners are fighting.

     If one parent is religious, another is not, the pious parent might want the children to follow his/her religion, and the less pious one might say wait till the child grow to make a decision. This is also difficult because the pious parent would want the kid to grow up based on faith system, whereas the other parent does not understand the importance of it.

     This is where things get tricky for there is no easy solution. For pious parents, the argument might lead to "my God is greater than your God" or "my religion is better than your religion". Maybe one may not say that out loud, but there's meaning behind wanting the child to follow one's religious beliefs. For partners where one is religious and another is not, the non religious parent might argue that "Do you think we are unable to raise our kids good enough?" argument. And as I said, there is no easy way out because both parents have different beliefs about life and death, moral values and importance of living.

     The important thing for couples before they get married, is to iron out all these possible difficulties, even if they are from the same religion. This would be the best way to live harmoniously. If I do get married, I would definitely want my children to grow up as Catholics. That's because a big part of who I am today comes from my Catholic upbringing. I think I am a moderately decent guy, and I am not saying that there are no decent guys out there, but I am, and would want to raise my kids the way I know how, and one part of it is the church. Differences in values should be ironed out, regardless of religion.

I should really pray more.

God Bless~

    

    

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Close to a year

     It's been close to a year now that I have been in the Denton -> Texas -> US. The year has not come to an end yet, but I think it's about time I update my blog with what has been happening throughout this 1 year, or almost a year. When I first got here, I was taking 9 credit hours (3 classes) and I do not have any work. I was very very very very very free then. It was fun because I had much free time to roam around, seeing events, and having more time to socialize with people. I was also looking for job frantically because I cannot afford to not have a job. I found a part time job, 10 hours a week, dealing with kids. I love kids, so that job was not bad. I still had time and Spring passed.

     During summer, I did not take any class because I would want to work full time, 40 hours, and immigration requirement, if I want to work full time, I cannot be taking classes. I need the money to support myself for Fall, and so I worked full time. Everyday it was going to office at 8, ends at 5, and I worked in 2 separate part time jobs, 20 hours each/week. So it was 8 till 12 in one place, 1 - 5 in another place. My work place was not awesome, and pretty stressed. What I feel more than stressed, is the helpless feeling I sometimes get from not being able to help students.

     After work, I will go to the gym once in a while. There wasn't anyone who plays volleyball during summer. I suppose many are not on campus, so it's pretty sad. I will come back from work, go to gym if I did go, and then cook. I shifted out from the dorm and into an apartment. Although summer was mundane because it was work everyday, my weekends were pretty ok since I get to go groceries shopping. I also got to go to Kansas City, which was nice. :)

     Fall came and I found a new job, a Graduate Assistant job which pays me well. Hurray! Thank God for all His blessings. 20 hours, and I am taking 4 classes. Contrary to Spring, I am very very very very busy this semester. Work, then class, then volleyball, and in between there's tutoring (because I became a volunteer tutor) and was the President of International Counseling Student Club, so I need to plan for events. During the weekends, I had volleyball tournaments and I got to go to San Antonio, Texas A & M, and University of Arlingon which was pretty nice.

     During this semester, I think I did not go Asian groceries shopping for 10 consecutive weeks. I need to get a trophy for that I think. XD Got to experience Thanksgiving. But on a whole, I think this semester I have been socializing less with people. Others are busy too and there just isn't time for chilling around. It's been months since I have been to Secret Recipe. Previously it's like a monthly event. Hahaha.

     I am happy with how this year is coming to an end. I have definitely learnt a lot in my classes, especially through the experiential learning. Gained some insight about myself and others. Miss my family and friends back home. Discovered that there are a lot of evil doings around the world and I am disturbed by it. Sometimes I think the world does need a superhero. Denton has spoilt me in many ways with it's traffic, weather, people and very affordable standard of living.

     Will go to Disneyworld, Universal Studio, Miami and Keywest next week. That is how my year is gonna end!

God Bless~

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Religion and judgement

1st July 2012

Sometimes, people uses religion as a means to condemn other people, saying things like:

"If you don't believe in my religion, you will not be saved"
"You should not do such sinful things/behavior for God will not forgive (or will be very angry at) you"

What we fail to understand is that God is God, and we are not God. How could we claim to know what God thinks. How could we know that 'other people' will not be saved and forgiven?

God's compassion is so great beyond our comprehension that God could forgive even the worst of sinners, whom we mere humans see these sinners as as low lives.

And I believe that God's love is so great that God will save people of other religion, just because God loves all humanity, regardless of religion. I don't claim that God will definitely do that, but I believe so.

What we need to do therefore is not to judge, but to welcome people of all walks of life to embrace God, by our ways of life of not judging, to be accepting, to be holy, and to be LOVING!

Many a times in the Bible, Jesus rebuked the so called 'holy men' in favor of sinners simply because it is sinners that are seeking for repentance, forgiveness, acceptance and love. Jesus himself gave us the perfect example when he minister not to the righteous, but to the sinners, the sick, the lame, the afflicted. He wants to show us what following him should be like.

Let us not be self-righteous like the 'holy men' (scribes, teachers of Law etc.) who only put heavy burden on people, but do not help them to overcome nor alleviate their misery.

Jesus came for the sinners. We should help, welcome and love sinners too, and since all of us are sinners, let's love one another as God has loved us.


God Bless~

Friday, June 29, 2012

Somebody's gotta take the shit

June 29th, 2012

This post will be about how our world is not ideal due to many different reasons and because it's not ideal, somebody's gotta take the shit!

Ideally, our shit can decompose itself or just disappear, but it doesn't happen that way. Somebody's gotta take that shit! (literally)

Ideally, our rubbish can walk out the door and to the trash bin, but it doesn't happen that way. Somebody's gotta take that shit!

Ideally, all the trash in the world can fly itself to an unknown planet with no inhabitants, but it doesn't happen that way. We gotta bear this shit!

Ideally, smart people should be the boss, but it doesn't happen that way (and you have no idea how important this is). Everyone under them has to take loads of shit!

Ideally, people are compassionate about other people, but it doesn't happen that way. We often times make shit of out other people's life.

Ideally, the system in place is for the people, or rather, the majority of people. But what about the minority then? SOMEBODY'S GOTTA TAKE THE SHIT! and it just so happens that most of the time, it's the minority.

Ideally, education should be provided for all, but it doesn't happen that way. Somebody's gotta take the shit of not having education. very sad indeed.

Ideally, everyone around the world has enough food on their plates, but it doesn't happen that way. Due to poverty, somebody's gotta take the shit of dying from starvation, going hungry due to too little food, eating food which is unclean/leftovers/expired. and it really pains my heart to see how people waste so MUCH food everyday.

Ideally, everyone works for the better good of humanity, but NO, it doesn't happen that way. People work for riches, fame, glory, and poor people have to take ALL the shit! they got no education or low education, low SES contributes to less than optimal growth, and they are less likely to break the cycle of poverty. this cycle is a piece of shit, but at the same time, this shit is a resistant to change shit.

Ideally, nobody needs to take any shit, but because it isn't an ideal world, SOMEBODY'S GOTTA TAKE THE SHIT!

So if you are one of the people on the receiving end (which I am sure you are every once in a while), suck it up, and move on with life.

God Bless~


Saturday, May 26, 2012

Pentecost

26th May

Today Catholics around the world celebrate Pentecost. The day when the Holy Spirit came upon the apostles and they went out preaching the good news.

Today's reading stuck with me and I would want to share it out

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such there is no law" (Gal 5: 22-23)

I wonder how many of those that I possess and not just possess, but act it out behaviorally. How many of those above you possess and act out?

This made me want to express another point. In the Bible, Jesus once mentioned a parable. A father has two sons. He went to the first and ask him to work in the vineyard and the son replied "No" but later thought better of it and went. The father went to the second son and ask the same thing. The second son said "Yes" but did not go. Jesus asked the people who did the father's will and the people answered the first.

Action speak louder than words. And this is true for Christians and Catholics alike. If we say we are followers of Jesus but do not bear fruits of the Spirit, we are merely giving lip service.

And I believe (personal opinion) that non-Christians (or Catholic for that matter) who bear the qualities above will have salvation even when they do not profess the faith. Of course you can argue that they might not care about salvation and eternal life, but that's beside the point. Point is, we will not be saved just by lip service. It will come through our act and ultimately God's grace.

That is why I would say that I want my kids to be taught the Catholic faith and start young. People know the value of good education for kids. The value of good religious education is as important too. It doesn't matter if they want to change their religion when they get older. That is their choice. But I would want to do my part as a good father and let them start somewhere. I am so glad that I am raised as a Catholic. It is one of my pillar of life.

People can argue that I am reducing my death anxiety by conjuring up this ultimate being known as God and the concept of eternal life. Granted, I think it is almost impossible for me to argue otherwise (it would also be almost impossible for them to argue that God does not exist). But if by having this faith, it teaches me how to live a better life, I don't see why not.

I hope my life will exemplify some if not all of the fruits of the Spirit!

God Bless~

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Mad

20th May 2012

Many people around me wonder whether I will ever get mad, and even if I do, will I ever act on that anger. I wonder myself too actually.



Have I gotten mad before? Well I have gotten angry and very disappointed before but I don't really remember an incident which I was mad. I do remember yelling at my dad once though. I don't think that was mad, more of disappointment.


I was 13 I think. Or probably 14. And I was about to go for a badminton practice (which later happened to have been canceled. boo hoo). So I need to leave the house but there was no one in the house except my little sister. My dad said he was coming back, but he haven't reach home and I was about to be late.


So I went off, and when I came back, I was scolded by my dad for leaving my sister alone at home. I was sad of course and disappointed and angry that he didn't see it from my perspective, that I was getting late for practice (when you are young, everything revolves around you right? XD).


I got the scolding, and I was quiet for a while. I wanted to bath and the feelings were welling inside of me. Just before I got into the bathroom, I shouted at my dad saying things like he only thinks of my sister and not me and whatever else which came to my mind then, and I was crying (Yes, I was crying then).

I was so embarrassed to have shouted at my dad. I think he got a shock. I got a shock. Didn't know I could actually do that.

So back to the question. Will I ever get mad? Maybe, but I don't think I will act on that madness. I will be more disappointed than mad, and instead of shouting, I will most probably keep quiet and be by myself.




I don't see the point in shouting when mad. If you want to get a point across, talking at an audible voice is perfectly fine. If the other person doesn't want to listen to you, no amount of shouting will do

Of course, it's not that I don't shout. I will if lets say I see someone do something dangerous or something, but not out of madness.


God Bless~

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Bersih?

29th April 2012

Is spilling of blood necessary for a country to change? Throughout history, there have been many wars fought: for power, for money, for freedom, for peace. Whatever it is, usually there's a spill of blood before substantial change happens. But is that really necessary?

Just yesterday there was a big rally in Malaysia, and in KL, things didn't turn out well. Government are pointing fingers at protesters for not keeping their promise of a peaceful rally. Organizers of the rally are blaming the government and police of excessive force. In the process, things got ugly and people were hurt, blood were spilled.

I wonder what will happen if the protesters were allowed to sit in in Dataran Merdeka. I wonder what will happen if protesters took the opportunity to have the protest in stadium instead. More importantly, I wonder why either one of those two didn't work out. Of course each gave their own reasons for not wanting to back down. Gov said Dataran Merdeka not suitable. Ambiga said a last minute change of venue was not possible as they do not have enough time to contact the NGO's. REALLY?

I don't find the arguments on either side plausible. I think it all boils down to image. Gov don't want to be seemed as if they were losing grip of their power. Maybe the same goes for the organizers. They might want to show the Gov that they have the right to protest and speak up (which they do) and by changing the venue, their image might be gone.

I am proud that so many Malaysians came out in support for clean and fair elections. I really am. But I wasn't proud when I see people beating their own people up, regardless of which side was beaten. Some might say police was brutal and yes, some were brutal but not all. Some might say that the protesters were brutal, and yes, some were brutal but not all. The danger in categorizing it as an all or nothing is very dangerous as more often than not, humans are not that simple. What I dislike most is how in these cases of 'war', blood are spilled. And the question comes... WHOSE BLOOD?

Is it the organizers' blood? No I don't think so. They are still pretty much alive and kicking. Is it the top people in the government who gives orders' blood? No, I don't think so.. They are even more alive and kicking. It is the blood of the common people that are spilled, regardless of whether they are in the police force, or the ordinary citizens who were teared gassed.

If either one party thought for a moment about people's safety and put aside the issue of their image, maybe this won't happen. At the end of the day, it is the people, the ordinary citizens who suffers. So is blood spill necessary? In the world that I live in right now, I think it is. But I hope it will change in the near future. This will happen if people can think for other people's welfare and not hang on so tightly onto one's idea that it's become so rigid.

God Bless~

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

End of the First Semester?

25th April 2012

It's almost the last week of class and finals is in 2 weeks time. After that will be the summer. Man, time sure flies. It's gonna be the end of the first semester already.

Hopefully I will be working full time during summer to earn some money. >,< dire financial situation. hoho..

How has my first semester been? Relaxing I would say for the most part, since most of my friends are busy shit every now and then. So I better enjoy it. I think Fall's gonna be shitty busy for me. But of well life goes on.

Work has been getting better I guess. Kids are more warmed up to me now. I have certain kids which I so love them. Other kids are just.... well.. let's not talk about those kids. :p

Nowadays whenever I see an aeroplane, I have a feeling. Feeling of going somewhere. When you live overseas with a bunch of friends, inevitably you will hear about people wanting to go places. Some of my friends are going back to Malaysia. Others are making plans to go road trips or some other trips. And that leaves me ...... nowhere. At least not yet somewhere.

Planning to go somewhere during the winter. *prays real hard* I better start planning and budgeting ^^

Oh did I mention I love grocery shopping now? I so don't like it back in Malaysia. But now it's something which I.... take responsibility in. lol.. really, when you have got nothing to do, having something to do is really awesome.

God Bless~

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Living in the US

Feb 26, 2012

So after talking about my journey here, let's focus on what I have been doing here.

Louis picked me up from the airport and I stayed at Suzanne's place for a while before moving in to my dorm, the College Inn (it's as old as Malaysia XD). My room is simple, but ok i guess.

The weather is always changing and there's really a pretty big difference in temperature from midnight till morning, till afternoon and night again. I can wake up at 3 morning (which I do at times) feeling hot and sweating.

UNT is a big university and there are still places which I have yet to know, but so far I would have known almost all of the places which are important to me and I don't get lost anymore. More like trying to find shortcuts nowadays on which is the fastest route to get to somewhere.

I am pretty much still trying to be more resourceful. It doesn't feel good to be always depending on others for things but sometimes I just need to and learn to be more muka tebal lor. ho ho. Everyone here is kinda like fighting for themselves as we all have our own goals and we take on different pathways.

Sometimes I do not understand the terms being used by the guai lou here and I am still adapting to it. More so when I first went for volleyball practice. Have no idea what they were saying oh em gee.. the terms they use is so different. outside hitter, deep, shallow, you're tight, second up, i've got hands, etc. but slowly getting used to it.

Class is ok. Some are boring, some are interesting, but I suppose it's gonna get more interesting as time goes by. As of now, I have some free time, not a lot, but enough to get by my studies, sports, work and daily living.

Life is different here for sure. I guess inevitably there will be perception of me partying here in the US, but... it's not happening as yet. This place at least is very peaceful. people are just contented with life and honestly speaking is pretty mundane... comparing it to KL.

God Bless~

Friday, February 24, 2012

Coming to the US

24th February

I know it's been a long time since I updated my blog and I am sorry for that. Well i tried updating it once i was here wanting to talk about my flights but then blogger wouldn't want to upload the photo and i was lazy to resize it. :p So it ended up without any post. Well let's talk a little about it then.

I came to US on 11th January (it's been that long? oh em gee) and being very not accustomed to travelling (alone some more), it was really a little crazy I think, but what to do.... air flight expensive ar.. seorang datang bagus la. hahaha..

So my flight was about 1 morning and from KLIA, my first stop is in Beijing, China. Once landed, IT WAS SO COLD. NO FREAKING JOKE! it was definitely less than freezing point cause i can see water freezing. so cold die and then was walking to another terminal. good thing I had someone to assist me, if not I will be so lost. the person was like 'THAT IS TERMINAL THREE. WE ARE AT TERMINAL TWO!! LET'S WALK FASTER!!!' I not gan cheong also kena chui until gan cheong.. lol.. boarded the plane safely to next stop, Narita, Japan.

I think Japan's airport pretty nice (not that others not nice). And I had to go to San Francisco next. no issue on boarding my plane here as I need not change terminal. Nobody to assist and I just found my way, but not a biggie.

When landed in San Francisco, I need to go through customs (which I was told need not by the agency which I bought ticket from... how dare they tipu me XD) and therefore I couldn't board my flight to Dallas on time. I was like... sei lo... sei lo... i am gonna miss my flight soon.. quickly le!!! i even asked one of the officer whether I can get priority (so Malaysian right? XD) but he said nope. ><

so line the long line for custom check and I really didn't manage to board my flight. Had to reschedule to another time, about 6 hours later definitely got place, but there's a plane in about 2 hours time, and they put me on the waiting list. if got people didn't board the plane, i can go. But that is IF.

So go get my lunch and wait in full anticipation that I will have at least a place. A lot of people were also going to Dallas and on the waiting list as well and I was pretty back on the list. Shit. This means if I take the next flight, I will reach at about 1am and I really don't 1 to trouble Louis (the person who will be fetching me from airport). Initially I should be reaching Dallas at 5 pm, but then it was pushed back to 7pm and if this 7pm doesn't have place, I will be there at 1am O.O!!

So the time for boarding came and I was asked to wait while the people who have the right ticket enter first... not that many people.. but the plane ain't that big either >< finally.. i was asked to go inside as there was place... i was ELATED! went in and sat... then 2 minutes later, someone said the person with the actual ticket just arrived and asked me to kindly leave... i was like.. "Really?" so i went out of the plane.. and then when i was just about to exit the ramp connecting the airplane and the airport, someone said.. 'u there.. u wait a while.. u follow me.. there should be a seat.' and i was .... confused but hopeful. so the dude went in.. checked and there was 1 last seat available. and i got that seat. I was so happy.

Got to Dallas safely. Got to Denton safely and the rest they say is history... history will be coming up soon. XD

thank God for my safe trip

God Bless~

Friday, January 13, 2012

Alex's Wedding

7th January 2012

It was the day of Alex's wedding. He's my cousin btw. ;D My family went down to Melaka for the wedding and it started at the church where they exchanged vows.


When they reached home, it's the tea ceremony time.



Of course, there was the dinner at night. How could there be no dinner right where everyone Yum Seng.

After dinner, I thought that's all but no... I was asked by my cousin to go clubbing. Apparently, my other cousins told him that if he didn't go, they wouldn't attend his wedding when it comes. XD emotional blackmail. hahaha.. First time to a club.


During this wedding, I saw a lot of my kiddy cousins growing older and i felt that I am growing older too. Now I kinda understand what the older people meant when they frequently said 'wah, you changed already'.

God Bless Alex and Yu Kar





God Bless~