Saturday, July 10, 2010

In and outside happenings

I would like to take some time to discuss about some happenings which seem to interest me. I got the materials while reading newspaper today, so let's begin

1) All students who scores 9A+ in SPM will be given scholarship regardless of background. Yay! that's a really great news for students. I am wondering though where do they get so much money from? Regardless, it's good because of it's long term investment and should be applauded. But regarding the lessening PSD overseas scholarships, it's a bad call. Boo-hoo.

2) Abolishment of UPSR and PMR - ridiculous idea if u ask me.

3) Sports a compulsory to enter public university - Yay! another good call eventhough some (or many) students will swear at the government. i don't need to elaborate on the benefits of exercising here do i? but the government must look at the facilities being provided. with the awesome weather we have here in malaysia, it is crucial for them to build more INDOOR sports facilities so that students can continue exercising come rain or shine. and of course qualified teachers or coaches. yes.. i can see the rise of new young volleyball-ers. XD

4) There's news that porn star Bobbi Eden (you must give credit to this person XD) will give oral sex to all her twitter followers if Holland wins the world cup. she started with 3000+ followers then, but now it seems she has approximately 90000+ followers. I really wonder how she is going to complete the ordeal. XD on another note, guys are so realistic aren't they? XDXD

5) The main story of this post would be this: Premarital sex
Many recent stories regarding dumping of babies forced the government and media to pay more attention to the issue of premarital sex and unwanted pregnancy. Where previously it was behind closed doors, hush hush discussions, now it's open in the public simply because it no longer can be contained.

Fact 1: children are getting sexually mature at a younger age
Fact 2: they are having sex regardless of whether people want to admit it or not
Fact 3: they are enjoying it.
Fact 4: they don't know how to protect themselves as it is proven by baby dumping

now here comes the tough part. are we as a society going to tackle premarital sex, or just tackling the issue of unwanted pregnancy? is it owhkay to be having sex as long as there's protection? the debate between abstinence and safe sex.

who am i to say that no one should have sex before marriage? if it's consensual, y not? it's not like they burn house or hurt other people right? and if it's safe sex, then there should be no reason for objection i guess. of course there's the law, where males will get charged for statutory rape, but nobody really follows since so many people are having sex. and of course, they might hurt their parents' feelings but.. if it's a secret, then no problem right?

from a psychologist point of view, unwanted pregnancy is the problem of premarital sex. if there's no unwanted pregnancy, then all's good. cause we need to be aware that sex is a component of healthy living. AND ironically, it's when we are at the peak of sexuality (teenagers years) that society condemn the act of premarital sex so much. however, there are also setbacks la like being addicted to it. psychology isn't really a clear cut field.

where and how does religion come into the picture? How are religions going to change according to time? yet to see la.

but i personally would choose sex after marriage. Let me list out some of the reasons why.

1) sex is sacred - ok.. i know this is lame. but for me it's real. if you have sex with every tom, dick and harry, then what's so special about it anymore? might as well have sex with every kitten, dogs and gorillas right? to really enjoy it, there should be a period of abstinence. Like how Muslims go through the puasa month before Hari Raya and how Catholics go through Lent before Easter.

2) mental preparation is important too - besides physical maturation, mental and emotional maturation is very important too. our brains are still developing until the our late 20's and so physically mature doesn't equate to mental maturity.

3) the issue of how safe is safe - safe sex is not sperm proof ok. eventhough the possibility might be significantly reduced, there is still possibility. in almost all species, the objective of intercourse is to have offsprings. of course sex is pleasurable, but we should always be mindful that when we have sex, we might sow seeds, intentionally or unintentionally. and when we have sowed, we should be grateful instead of being filled with remorse. that's y premarital sex is always a gamble. best bet? abstinence la of course.

Ok.. so that's all for my happenings report.

I think i am suffering from low self esteem la. ish. am i a moodle? :x

God Bless~

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