Live life cheerfully

After coming back from Sunday School, the mother of a boy asked her son..

Mum: So son, what did u learned today in Sunday School?

Son: Well, we learnt how God punished the people by sending the flood, and also how He punished the people of Sodom and Gomorrah.

Mum: Oh! That's terrible isn't it?

Son: Oh don't worry mum.. That was before God became a Christian

;-D

God Bless~

Pain

It's been quite some time since i last blogged.. well.. nothing much to blog mer.. today got something to blog.. mainly about pain.. hehe..

well.. how do we feel pain? of course.. we feel physical pain when our pain receptor is triggered and then the signal is sent to the brain..

how about emotional pain then? or psychological pain? how do we feel them and why?

research has consistently show that emotional pain is as bad as physical inflicted pain if not worse.. the same area of the brain is activated during emotional pain such as social exclusion..

besides that, we have a 'mirror neuron' (i think) which when we see someone being tortured, we also will feel the same pain because we can put ourselves in the shoe in the other person..

out of these 3 options, which do you think would inflict the most pain on you?

1) being physically tortured
2) seeing someone you don't know being tortured
3) seeing someone you love being tortured

to me, i think option 3 would inflict the most pain on me.. it is sometimes more painful for you to see someone you love being tortured than to endure the torture yourself.. right?

and when i see the people around me having bad days, arguing with their parents, lovers, the social ills around me, i am sadden by it.. talk about mirror neurons man..

but today when i was watching a chinese drama.. one of the characters said this

"there are so many things happening around us. even if we were to interfere, we cannot help everyone."

and that is the truth. we don't have the time, the resources and the energy to help everyone

WELCOME TO REALITY... so what can we do??

well... i think i can just pray for them and lift them up to God to help them.. man can't do everything cause if they can, they are God..

God Bless~

Paradox

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

John 1:1

I guess many of you guys knows about the story of Adam and Eve... Adam and Eve was created by God and they were asked not to eat the fruit at the middle of Garden of Eden.. But a serpent tempted Eve to eat the fruit and then she gave it to Adam..

and so they were banished from the Garden of Eden..

and that was the beginning... or at least according to Christians believe..

However, today when i was reading Social Psych book, i came across something paradoxical(to the extend of being humourous) to the so called 'beginning'...

"In the beginning was not the word, not the deed, not the silly serpent. In the beginning was why? Why did she pluck the apple? Was she bored? Was she inquisitive? Was she paid? Did Adam put her up to it? If not, who did?"

(John le Carre, 1989, cited in Aronson, Wilson Akert, 2007)

hurmss.. in the beginning was the 'why?'... cool? kinda cool

God Bless~

Reference:

Aronson, E., Wilson, T. D. & Akert, R. M. 2007. Social Psychology, Pearson Education, New

Jersey

Brain and Mind

Brain and mind.. are there differences between them? of course

brain is the physical lump you and i have in our skull.. whereas mind is our thought, ideas, or simply our 'thinking'

so how do the mind come about when it is not a physical entity? according to the law of physics, things can change form from energy to matter, or from matter to energy, while conserving the energy (meaning energy before transformation = energy after transformation).. something cannot come from nothing. something needs to come from something..

if this law of physics is true, then what forms our mind? from where did this something come from?

hmm.. interesting no? and the answer to this question is.... jeng jeng jeng..

i don't know.. that is what the biopsychologist and cognitive psychologist are finding out.. hehehe..

God Bless~

Of Spiders and Functions

Think of this for a moment...

Why do spiders want to build webs?

Very much like me, and all the other people, your answer might be very well... to catch flies la.. or to catch their food..

"We may think that a spider builds a web to catch flies, but this is true only at the functional level. There is no evidence that spiders have any idea what webs are for. In other words, a behavior's purpose says nothing about its underlying motives." (de Waal, 2003, p. 25, cited in Smith, Nolen-Hoeksema, Fredickson & Loftus)

That got me wondering.. about what people do which seems to be profitable only at a functional level, but in essence, they don't really know why they do what they do...

For example, why do guys GENERALLY (generally cause i am not one of them) adores football so much, and at the same time, why do females GENERALLY adores shopping so much?

From the surface, it seems that guys like football cause it's enjoyable? (i really don't know y ok.. it's just a guess) and women likes shopping to.... equip themselves with.... cloths to protect themselves? ok.. maybe both of them has to do with the social surroundings.. it is a generalization that men loves football and women loves shopping, so if i am a guy/girl then i should like football/shopping

Funtional purpose.. socializing.. make sense?

So what are the underlying motives then? i don't know..

Why did i gave an example of football and shopping? Because i read an intresting article entitled True love is .... football by A. Asohan.

According to him.. "it was every woman’s dream to find a beau who’s not into football. Just like it’s every man’s dream to find a woman who’s not into shopping, I guess." (Asohan, 2008)

His article is quite enjoyable and you can have a look at it at http://thestar.com.my/lifestyle/story.asp?file=/2008/1/13/lifefocus/20080112154018&sec=lifefocus

God Bless~

References:

Asohan, A. 2008. True Love is .... Football. The Star, Lifestyle, Malaysia.
Smith, E. E., Nolen-Hoeksema, S., Fredrickson, B. L. and Loftus, G. R. 2003. Atkinson &
Hilgard's Intoduction to Psychology, 14th edition. Thomson Wadsworth, United States of
America.

Social Psychologists

What do social psychologists do?

They do what normal psychologist do, try to investigate, predict then control humans' behavior, thinking and feeling.. but they also take into account the social surrounding, the environmental factor that might influence people.

A simple example to illustrate..

Suppose u sms someone, and that person didn't reply.. u called and that person didn't pick up youir call.. what do u think?

That person might be busy and didn't notice it, or he/she might not like you and purposely avoid you, or you might think that he/she is a arrogant person who don't want to reply you..

all in all.. it's that person's fault for not answering you or replying you..

suppose now u know his/her situation..

phone in silent mode, coincidently, when you called, he/she was out or in the toilet...

now.. it isn't totally that person's fault is it? this is what social psychologist do.. they take into account the social environment and attribute people's behavior to their social surroundings, to a certain extend la..

hmm.. someone i tell you...

God Bless~

Thievery?

5th Jan 2008

4.40 a.m

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

that is how i was awaken.. by my aunt's screaming.. she sounded so terrified, as if she saw a ghost or something really horrible..

i woke up and asked her.. why aunty?

got thief arr..

aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

that was my scream after i hear her say that.. i screamed (got such word?) quite loudly.. to scare the theif off i think..

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

she continued screaming when i screamed

then i asked her.. where?

there la.. outside the window... he used a stick.. she replied.. i switched on the light and took a look.. the stick is still there, but i didn't see anyone..

with both my scream and my aunt's scream.. suprise suprise, my bro can still sleep and he didn't wake up.. hahaha.. then woke him up and he checked.. his handphone gone.. the thief almost stole my 2 bags, but he failed cause my aunt came into the room just in time..

then my bro called the cops and then the rest was history la.. went back to sleep...

9 a.m something..

the police came the second time to take some photos.. and then i went back to sleep...

11.30 a.m.

finally woke up.. and everything that happened is like soooo yesterday.. had breakfast and then... played dota and then had my lunch

after lunch, i packed my things.. my dad asked me to clean up my stuffs cause i have been keeping all the books, papers and things since form 5.. hahaha..

clean clean.. most of the stuffs throw it away.. and i bumped into some really memorable pictures.. pictures of when i was in form 2 right up till form 5... class photos, as well as photos taken during church activities.. memories came back in an instant..

those were the days.. so much have changed since then.. ah.. i miss those days

so much things happened in a day.. be careful and

God Bless~