A perspective on Love

Situation: An arranged marriage is going to be done. The husband-to-be was reluctant to marry because he didn't love the wife-to-be.. However, as time passes, he gave in to his parent's wishes..

The wife-to-be was eager to marry because she was in love with him... but as time passes, she realizes that he doesn't love her.. on the day of marriage, she decided to not get married.

That, was illustrated in one of the episodes of a show.. and what the wife-to-be said to her so called parents' in law made a whole lot of sense

this is what was said by the daughter in law and her father in law (it is a chinese show, so i am translating the dialogue.. hopefully the meaning won't run too much la.. XD)

Father: Why do you want to leave? Doesn't my son treat you well?
Daughter: Yes.. he treats me well... but the kind of well he treats me is different from how a husband should treat a wife.
Father: Haihz.. Don't worry about it, as long as you get married today, everything will be fine.. Love can be sowed with time..

(this is the important part)
Daughter: When you are preparing medicine, yes, you need time for the medicine to boil to be fully effective.. but boiling for a longer period than is suppose to be does not mean the medicine is going to be more effective

I have lived with him for so long.. and yet he doesn't have feelings for me.. even if i were to marry him today, a longer period of time won't change anything.

(continues)

When preparing a medicine, what you need to put in are the essential items.. for example (this is a fake example and not in the show.. in the show the example given is a traditional medicine which i don't know how to say) if for a cough medicine... you would need A and B (variables here because i don't know what is needed.. )

although by adding C, the medicine might work better, it is still only a supplement.. In this case, i am the C, and what he needs is not me, rather A and B which is the girl he loves.

Finally the father in law understood...

What she says.. sums up beautifully on how to look at relationships. A way out of the many ways..

However, what if things were not so easy? What if things are not so simple? If for example the guy likes both the girls and is undecided who he loves most.. what will happen?

In this case, the essential elements can't be pinned down because basically he don't know who is his 'essential element'. A and B could be substituted by C and the effect is still the same.. So how?

Ideas anyone?

God Bless~